We Love Our Men | Why Fathers, Husbands & Brothers Matter

In this episode, we flip the script: instead of bashing men, we celebrate them. 💙

We explore why men are so important in the family and community — from being present fathers and role models, to setting the standard of love for daughters and discipline for sons. We also open up about what it means as women to balance being strong while learning to embrace softness in relationships.

This is a conversation about partnership, respect, and gratitude — for husbands, brothers, uncles, fathers, mentors, and all the men who hold it down for their families and communities.

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Transcript

Speaker 01: 0:00

Men are important,

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period.

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A husband sets the standard for the love the daughter will receive that she's going to accept. For me, we're strong in areas that they're not strong in. They're strong in areas we're not strong in. But when it comes to a household and raising kids, especially boys, there is something that I cannot teach my boys that a man could. When they know that they're needed, Sometimes they show up better, and they show up harder, and they love harder. I know firsthand that if a boy does not see his mother being treated with respect, it's hard for him to respect another girl. A man feels comfortable enough to be vulnerable, and we provide a space for them to be vulnerable. We not only... help them grow. We help them see that we're their partners, that we're their helpmate. Yes. Because I want my husband to feel loved. I want him, I'm learning what my husband need, but what also I'm hearing a lot of other men vocalize. And then I'm seeing in generations before that they didn't have the words or the language to express. My grandfathers on both sides I believe, y'all can correct me parents, but I believe on both sides, they didn't have further than a sixth grade education. How much vernacular did they have when it came to expressing how they felt? Hey guys, we're back. Women in Black. Yes. What's going on? How you feeling? I'm good. Yeah. You're just good. I'm just good. That's good. It is. That's good. I've been practicing gratitude lately. Yep. Yo. She's clocking that T. Clocking it. That's my thing.

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I've

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been practicing gratitude because I think I downplay the blessings that God gave me. And I don't want to be that person. I've come so far. And sometimes we really need to stop and think about where God brought us, even though we're still trying to get to another level. And so mentally I've come far, you know, financially I've come far and I wouldn't have did it without him. So I'm good. Big ups to God. I tried to do that in like an African voice. That was not at all. I don't know what that is. Yo, you want to hear it though? That didn't do it? No. Listen, I'm about to switch topics. Just going to forewarn you. Okay. All right. I was watching this reel and a girl said, let's say she worked at customer service or something like that. And she was on a phone and basically she told the guy like, no, I can't do that for you, sir. Or whatever. He got mad. He was like, basically like, I can tell you fat. Oh, I saw that. And she was like, can y'all tell me, do I sound like a big girl? Do I sound like a fat girl? Yo, and then somebody in comments said she big-toned. See, the comments be eating people up. You got to be a strong big back to handle these comments. Strong big back. You got to be strong to handle these comments because they be eating people up. Because that's ridiculous. Who comes up with that? And don't, listen, Don't be in our comments unless you want to get comments back. Because I got words. I got time. I got words. Yes. All of it. All of it. You better

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be

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ready. I said, is she goofy? I just can't get past the big-toned. You not big-boned. You big-toned. You big-toned. ignorant ignorant ignorant ignorant ignorant ignorant moving right along so how was your week I'm blessed by the best okay don't play with it don't play with it I'm stealing that one blessed by the best I'm stealing it I stole it go ahead they been saying that for years in the church I missed that one in church you did blessed by the best that must have been when I was on a hiatus Peace. That's when they kick me out. Talk about church kicking you out. I was like, just kidding. Just kidding. But no, I'm definitely, I'm blessed. I'm going to piggyback off what you said, just having gratitude. I'm not where I want to be all the way. Right. But I'm dang sure not where I used to be. And I say this thing all the time. I've been saying it for years. This isn't my stop. It's my step. And I'm stepping, y'all. Big Josh, stepping. Do you hear me? Big step up. I am stepping, and I'm so proud of myself, and I'm so blessed, and I just thank God. I'm just so thankful for my village. My job, just everything. Let me tell you what I'm most thankful for right now. My relationship with God. That's a blessing. They say when you just lift your hands up and just say, God, I trust you, and you really do it, his words become more clear, and I'm right there. Like, discernment like this. Just following his steps, confirmation, boom, boom, boom. So... Big ups to the big one because he out here doing his thing and he don't play with me. In our relationship, we like this because he said, daughter, daughter, daughter, daughter, Follow me. And I got you. Don't worry about what you thought you had back there. Don't worry about all that. Don't worry about what you thought you wanted. Because what I want for you, what I have for you, is so much bigger. I know that's right. So yeah, I'm just blessed by the best. Blessed and highly favored. Let the chirps say... Amen. Amen. Amen.

Unknown: 7:22

Amen.

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I ain't even do it. Listen, I got a song for you. I got to put you on some new church music. Yeah. Because you always taking us back to the southern days when we used to have to open up the handbooks and stuff. Why? Tell me why. Because I come from a lineage of southern pastors in churches. Shout out to Bishop Underwood. So like from like some of the first churches in the south. Just going down as one. It's a bishop in every generation. And y'all just never listened to Kirk Franklin? No, we didn't. You just always got to take it back to the Wilmington, Massachusetts choir. You know what it is? First of all, you a best. But secondly, I did listen to Kirk Franklin and everybody else because I did the dance ministry. And so we had to do the hip hop and stuff. It didn't look like that. but nah so although my family has a church I went to a mega church so I know all the newer songs however your soul my soul just takes you back there it takes me back there mostly because and I think I told you this because I wrote a poem I might have to read my poem sometimes I write y'all you should she does very well too thanks Josh you're welcome Des you so silly But so I am a really spiritual person, just really relationship driven. And so when I hear certain songs, as interesting as it is, like some of them old hymns, like they did something to my soul in a power that a lot of them old hymns had. Like, I don't know, when I'm going through something, I always pull out the old songs. Just be that. But even, like, you can't tell me nothing about Kirk Franklin because a lot of his songs and Hezekiah Walker, they some of them songs too. But they had me moving, so

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they more like mine. But they

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changed it up. They changed it up. They changed it up. They did. Because I'm out here listening to Forrest Frank now. Yeah, Forrest Frank now. You sent me him. But it's a couple good songs. I'm going to tell you what I'm listening to. Wait till it drop. That's my heart. Big Facts. Yeah, that's the Hawaiian church music. And he ain't even Hawaiian. He is not Hawaiian. That's my nephew. Yeah, young Ness. That's my nephew. He play with force. Yeah, That's in the building. But I love me some, like, I love, so I'm going to read some names off my playlist. First of all, Pastor Mike Jr. He my dog. Oh, don't play with Pastor Mike. Yeah, he my dog. Don't play with Pastor Mike. Carrington Gaines. Hmm. Yeah, listen. Dante Bo. Okay. Yeah, he, you know, he got them songs. Now, going back again, though, I love me some Marvin Sapp, my dad. Oh, I love me some Marvin Sapp.

Unknown: 10:50

Mm-hmm.

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I love me some Marvin Sapp. some more of it and say, don't play with it. Smokey. Yeah. Don't make me cry. I'll take it back to Donnie. Don't play with Donnie. Don't make me cry. First of all, Fred Hammond. Fred Hammond. Don't play about Fred. Let me tell you. Don't play with Fred. Oh, Fred. At my dad's passing, I had the guy do like a mix of songs. So it was Marvin Stapp, Fred Hammond, Smokey Norfolk. It was just like a mix because my dad sung. My

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dad,

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his voice was just. he played nine instruments self-taught nine instruments yeah and so yeah oh I'm getting memories but yeah so you can cry right now I could okay but I don't want to yeah nah but it's a whole bunch of them on this list but um yeah Jonathan um Taylor's pretty good too um and then there's some people like the Anthony Brown Jonathan McReynolds I'm just looking at my playlist James Fortune cool too then there's This is a young dude, Jordan Armstrong. He kind of give that vibe, like a little YM, but still a little churchy too. No, I be on my way to church, on my way to work, right? When I go to work and I be jamming to this.

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Y'all

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ready?

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I

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know this one. You know this one? Yeah. Because I don't know how people be in their cars and they just be, they don't be moving. Like, how do y'all listen to music? Not me. I be like, how is y'all over there? And y'all not dancing to nothing. Yo, that's me. But I'm the one. I'm the one at the stoplight dancing. I'm the one at the bridge. I don't care where I am. I'm dancing. I don't know how the people just be, how do y'all just be like this? They listening to opera. I was going to say audio book. You was at opera. Cause ain't no way. And I be in the car, and I'm not ashamed. I be in the car jamming. And I don't got that much rhythm, but I'm not scared to dance. I don't care. I be in the car jamming to all my church music. And then, because you need, first of all, and then we're going to get right into the topic of the day. When you wake up in the morning, you need something that's going to edify your soul and get you going. You don't need nobody talking about smoking weed. You don't need nobody on there talking about how they just got their heart broke or throwing that in a circle. You don't need none of that early in the morning. You need something that's going to fill you up because you don't know what that day is going to look like for you. So every day I need to be filled up. You start with like music in the morning because that's my me time. I start I start with affirmation. What do you mean? When I first opened my eyes? I'm talking about when I'm in the car, driving to work. Oh, okay. Well, it depends. Okay. But I definitely, my calm place, like, because I'm going to go to music because I love music. Music helped me think. But yeah, you said it's like starting your day. Like, you don't got to listen. You don't listen to this. That's all. I was just wondering, like, I even ended up writing my own affirmations. I just put them in. playing back to myself in my voice. Like it's me. I don't need nobody else telling me who I am. Right. Right. Well, as soon as I open my eyes, I say, thank you, God. And I say a little prayer. Then we get up and it's time to get the day going. But once I get in that beep, beep, vroom, vroom. That's because you drive. Yeah. Because I be driving a couple of days out of the week. Yeah. But if it's just, but when I turn on my computer to log into work when I'm not driving. Yeah. I turn my music on. Yeah, I do that too. I don't talk to people in the morning anymore on the phone. Yo, I set that boundary a long time ago, but I got in trouble for it. But the one friend, she recently, I think she started to understand because she was like, she called me early. She was like, I don't even mean to call you early. So I started cracking up, laughing because I had to set a boundary with her. I'm like, listen, love you. Yeah. But I need my time. Yeah, my mom won't even call me in the morning unless it's an emergency. I have to reclaim my time, my morning, my time. I don't need to be talking. I don't want to talk to nobody on the phone before 830. No. First of all, I don't even want to talk to my coworkers at 9 o'clock. First of all, I don't have, like, where I sit now at work is different from where I used to sit and years ago they used to be like I'll talk to Josh till 930 thank you but I work I'm better with that now because I have to not that I am a people person but in the morning time I'm more of a what is it an introvert like you just like to be withheld kept to yourself I am I don't I'm not a big good morning I'm a morning I'm not a morning person so I'm definitely like that yeah I'm just a morning person And then, yeah, give me a little bit of time to get my thoughts together. Because y'all don't really know if I want to be here. No, I love my ladies in my group. They like that. But, yeah. How y'all feel about getting on work calls and they be talking about their pets? You do that? You one of them people. You got to edit this. You got to edit this part. I am. You're not editing it? You have to. I love, we talk about our pets. I know. I'm on those calls. So what's wrong with that? I even put Nori in the camera sometimes. I'm on the receiving end of the pets. That's because you don't have a pet. You don't understand. That's what it is. Because I be like, yo, get this damn cat off the screen. I'm scared of cats. I think some of them are very pretty, but I'm scared of them. All All right, guys, so we're going to just jump right into the topic, because what? Because what? Because how? Guys, we're here. Oh, God, I need to go to bed. But anyway, what's our topic today, Des? I don't remember. And all my intrusive thoughts took over a second ago. So today, guys, we are women in black, but we are going to be talking about our fellas because we are not men bashers on women in black. We love our black men. We love our men. Yeah. We love our black men. We love our black men. I mean, yeah, because I'm very attracted to black men. Well, one in particular. But men are awesome. Yes, they are. And you guys are really important. So let's get into why it's important for the man to be in the house, not to just be in the household, but to be present in the household. That's important. Yeah. So we're going to get into that. Men are important, period. Yes, they are. So for me, my take on it is... I'm a woman and I'm strong in areas that men are not strong in. Women in general, we're strong in areas that they're not strong in. They're strong in areas we're not strong in. But when it comes to a household and raising kids, especially boys, there is something that I cannot teach my boys that a man could. You know what I mean? And unfortunately, circumstances, the, you know, the, the, life that was thrown at me you know the card that I took that I picked up it just did not permit their father to be in the household raising them you know what I mean so it's just like it's so important for a man to be in that household and to be present because I remember when we did live off and on with each other he would say something I would say something and it wouldn't get done the minute. He says something, it's done just like that. Like for me to remind them, because my boys, I love my boys so much, but my boys can be so dirty, right? But I know that their dad is not dirty. So if he was, let's say he was in the household, certain little things like them keeping up with the bathrooms and stuff like that, I wouldn't have to teach that to them because it would automatically, that's something he would stay on top of them about. Or just their mannerisms and how to deal with life. I can't teach these Black boys... how to, what's about to come their way. All I can tell them is what they are and how they're perceived a lot of times. So you can't be out here looking ignorant, acting ignorant, or being a YN. You gotta, you know what I mean? When you walk, you gotta walk with some pride, with some confidence, and you gotta remember that at the end of the day, I need you to come back home. Right. And that's just what it is. I can tell them that, but I can't show them that. So it's a big deal. So men, you guys are really important. And that's just coming from a single mother. You know what I mean? Raising boys, all boys by myself. And then on the flip side, discipline. I can't teach them discipline, but I will. Nope. Cause we, we thanking God today for our black men. I can't teach them discipline, but I thank God for my support system that the men in their lives that do have the discipline to show them, because everybody wasn't blessed to have discipline. I can't teach them that as a woman. So that's what I try, and I swear, I swear, I swear, I thank God for that. the men, the strong black men that I, no, I take that back. The strong men in general. Oh yeah. Yeah. That my boys have in their lives because it's not all, it's about what we are. Yeah. But there are some men who have my boys back that don't look just like them. Right. Right. You know what I mean? So I just thank God because that, having that, just being that single mom and, not having that male figure in the household. And then as a single mom, you don't want to just bring anybody in your household. I know. So it's hard. But kudos to the Black men that are present, doing their things, and taking one for the teams and chipping in to help the village. Right. I didn't hear anything after it's hard because my brain went to, it's hard out here for a pimp. You know, it's hard out here for a pimp when you're trying to raise the money and the rent. It's hard. Why are they calling? What they want? But yeah, I agree. I'm with you. Men are needed. Men are necessary. Men are the pillar of the family. Women are the matriarchs. Men set the tone for the family. They are the head of the house. They are our protectors. They are our providers. And I think we need to see more of them show up in that light and in that way. And I think I'll even go as far as saying us women need to appreciate them more. The ones who are doing it right is so that more men could want to do it right. Because I think when we do get into the mode of speaking down sometimes, some men take that as a way to kind of get out of doing what they need to do. Well, that's how they feel about us anyway.

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You know what I'm saying? But

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when they know that they're needed, sometimes they show up better. And they show up harder. And they love harder. Because I do think, as we were exploring in our other podcast, like men being vulnerable, when a man feels comfortable enough to be vulnerable. And we provide a space for them to be vulnerable. We not only help them grow, we help them see that we're their partners, that we're their helpmate, that we're there to support them. And to just be completely honest, because we're alpha females, but we want to be in our soft girl era. What I What I'm learning, and I shared this with Josh earlier, like there's times where I want to say something.

Unknown: 25:46

Yeah.

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I just got to shut up. Got to shut up and fix your face. Shut up and fix your face. Shut up. You want to know why? Because I want my husband to feel loved. I want him, I'm learning what my husband need, but what also I'm hearing a lot of other men vocalize. And then I'm seeing in generations before that they didn't have the words or the language to express that. They really didn't. Our ancestors told them, be strong. And even beyond that, just think of it in these terms. As simple as this, my grandfathers on both sides, I believe, y'all can correct me, parents, but I believe on both sides, they didn't have further than a sixth grade education. How much vernacular did they have when it came to expressing how they felt because language was stolen from us. And so we come to a different culture, a different setup, everything's different and we're expected to, for everything to fall in line. And so now at my grown age, I am realizing that certain things were lost in translation, literally from Africa to America, it was lost in translation. And, um, Certain things were stolen from us. So it almost feel like in a black family, you got to work twice as hard because certain things weren't. Weren't instilled. Yeah. We just didn't know. Yeah, you didn't see it. Yeah. Well, the family, the core to even slavery, selling off that man, breaking down. I'm going to break that man like I break that horse. That's how they went about it. They said, I'm going to break that man like you break a horse. And once his family, see him fall down like that and see me break him they gonna fall in line because they understand the power of the head of the household and so like it's just important sometimes I gotta bring center myself because I know I got a strong personality I have to center myself and realize what his plight is every day when he go out there and he dealing with people with just as strong a personality as he is in the neighborhood that he work in I don't want him to come home and feel like he got to fight with me.

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Yeah.

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And it's hard because I got a strong personality. Right. No, for real. That's serious. Yeah. So men in the house, it serves so many different purposes, but I feel like it's foundational to the family. I feel like exactly what you said about discipline and everything else. I think there's a lot of discipline. Women, don't get me wrong, but I think especially when raising men, young men, I hurt exactly what you said about that discipline. You know what I'm saying? They're showing a way. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. And boys need to see their mothers being loved properly. You just stole that out of my head, but I ain't want to rush into the next topic because I'm like, oh shoot, I said so much so fast. No, they really do because... They do. It's important. Because I know firsthand that if a boy does not see his mother being treated with respect, it's hard for him to respect another girl or another woman. And then here you come as a mother trying to beat it into him. Like, you don't disrespect a woman. But how can you tell that boy not to disrespect that woman when maybe that's all he's seen? Yeah. mother being treated with nothing but love and kindness and respect, what you think he going to reciprocate to another female or another woman? He going to have more respect. So in general, like, I thank God for being 70% woman and 30% men. 30% real nigga. I thank God for that. But at the end of the day, I still can't give them, I can tell that all day till my face is turned blue. But if they don't see it from that male, and I'm not even going to say that male, if they don't see it from their father or that active stepfather that's in the house, or yeah, it starts in the house because they can have uncles that's got their backs all day long, but it has to stem from inside the house. So because I don't have that structure in the house, I feel like I've got to work. How you might discipline DJ just once or twice, I have to instill it into Jace six times. You get what I'm saying? Yeah, because I've been there. Because that piece is missing. Did I want my life to be like that? Absolutely not. You know what I mean? But hey, it is what it is. So men, it's really important to be in that household with your kid And it's more than just being in there with them, being present. Don't just think, this goes back to another episode when we said what they didn't, what men didn't see sometimes. And they do it. Like if their dad wasn't there and they are there, they think that that's enough. It's not enough. Especially with this generation. We need y'all. Y'all can't go anywhere. Because we need y'all up in these houses. We do. We need y'all in these houses. I know, unfortunately, sometimes y'all make decisions where kids over here, kids over here. So there's like broken households. But do your best to make sure you show up all the time for those kids because the kids are our future. So we appreciate the men who are out here not playing about their sisters, their wives, their mothers, their daughters. And as a community how we supposed to help each other about their sisters in general I'm your sister even if I'm not your sister look out for me if I'm on this train and somebody looking crazy or something like that you know what I mean like look out for each other so kudos to the men who are out there doing it yeah and I'm gonna add to what you said and when you said about the young men seeing their mom being loved one thing I meant Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. My daughters see my husband loving on me. First of all, they be like, ugh. They be like, ugh. Here they go again. Yeah. But I love that they're able to see what love is. Because, yeah, they have a standard. And love is not always affection. Love is opening a door. Love is showing up with your favorite candy bar. Or love... be always knowing where your scarf is because my husband is great at that. As many things as my husband drive me crazy with, the things that drive me crazy are also the things that I love because he always knows where everything is. Yeah, absolutely. He knows where all my stuff is. I don't even know where it's at. Shout out to you, coach. He's such a coach. He's so organized. Yeah. Young women also need to see their mothers being loved and their fathers setting the standard of what love is. And that's so vitally important. Yes. So fellas, we need y'all. As much as y'all get on our nerves, as much as we know we strong, right? Because we strong. Because we strong. We need y'all. Because we got to deal with y'all, so we strong. Because exit. You see what I'm saying? Do you see what I'm saying? We have to literally deal with trouble. So we strong for just... Sticking through it, all right? But we love y'all. We love y'all. We love Coach. We love our brothers. We love our uncles. We love our best friends, our best guy friends. I have a special place in my heart for the people in the community that just look out for the kids in general. Those men that just have that bond. They're not leaving nobody at the football field. Shout out to y'all. Shout out to those volunteers those men volunteers who just do it from the kindness of their heart like shout out to y'all that's like that's love you're not they're not getting paid to be out there to deal with nobody bratty behind son getting smart that's why it's important to another reason it's important to have a man in the house because I always tell my boys do not go back and forth with no female girl do not go back and forth with anybody a real man is not going to keep going back and forth arguing. They looking at me like you're not a real man. 30%. Anyway, 30%. But anyway, it's important. Why are you sitting here arguing with a female? Because that's what y'all was taught. right now so shout out to the community guys shout out especially shout out to my village her village too her husband but my village that don't play about me and don't play about my boys thank y'all from the bottom top bottom top to the bottom thank y'all from my from the bottom of my heart because it means a lot like I can only teach my boys so much yeah and it's my senior year this year so Because I came forward. If y'all know, we'll talk about that later. But yes, shout out to our guys. We appreciate y'all. Y'all some real ones. A lot of y'all. But just like all of y'all ain't real, all of us don't be good moms and good leaders and stuff like that. So don't get it twisted because there's some deadbeat moms out there too. There really is because I have friends who were raised by their dads. Don't get it twisted. I've seen it. Like close friends. Unfortunately, I just feel like what I've seen growing up in a city environment was just like a lot of addiction. We talked about that. But with that, unfortunately, it got some of the moms too. And I've seen it. And so not to excuse anybody, but that's a hard fight right there. And it was planted in our community. So, you know, we did the best we could. They did the best they could. That generation, this generation, some of y'all just choosing to be dead. that want to be on the internet. And I

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don't like that for us. I

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don't like that for us. And it's not being on the internet. It's just like, what you willing to accept and promote

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when

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it comes to who you are as a lady and as a woman. And like I said, I ain't always get it right. I'm not perfect. But it's just, I wish there was more examples of a great woman online. And I know there are some. Well, here we are. There you go. We need to really push that so that they can see another side. Yes. And they can see life outside of just the normal things that they're taught. Yeah. What I don't understand, though, is it be like a lot of people from the suburbs or, and we talked about this, but I don't know why suburbs for some reason became like the because it's not all that. But from two-family households, the kid just became ratchet. They came out ratchet, y'all. Yeah, and then you got the kid who's from a single-parent household just as prim and prim and proper. What'd that tell you about parenting? It starts in the house, for real. And that just goes to show both of them parents might be absent. They might be present, but they physically present, mentally absent yeah and that might be from something they got going on and they can't be the best versions of themselves because they don't like each other hmm we don't know but we gotta we have to stick together and um that's that's the moral of it we gotta appreciate our black men and guys yes we said this was about you guys but y'all gotta appreciate us too I really would love to see what going into my soft voice because I'm trying to soothe y'all ego. Because I was hard. All right, I'm going to bring it down. I really would appreciate if y'all uplifted us a lot more, if y'all supported us in public and in private, if y'all would have our backs because we're... Let me just take it a step further. We're also in the workforce now. And when I say... This is coming from somebody who is in senior leadership because I need y'all to hear me. When I say it's hard out here for a pit, it's hard. So we have a very similar plight when it comes to what we dealing with day in and day out. And we just need some grace because we don't want to show up hard. But if I can express to you how hard it is to turn that off even because we're fighting. It's tough.

Speaker 00: 40:22

Yeah.

Speaker 01: 40:23

But we know in today's economy, sometimes you need to have two working adults just to make it. Just to make it. And those two working adults probably working two jobs a piece. Yeah. Yeah. So we got to show each other grace. I think that's where for me. Yeah. Everybody got to give some kind of grace. Yeah. And stop like the word we did today. The topic we did today was not for the sassy princess. We're not too fond of y'all. We do not condone of you sassy princesses that get on the internet and bash women. We don't like y'all. At all. At all. I love my strong black men that's standing behind. Like the real men. Like the real ones. And I found out what that term was that I couldn't find out last time. It was called simp. They be calling them simps. That's what they be calling them, simps. Because they love them women because they the head of the house. Yes. It's dumb. Chivalrous and stuff. They dumb. And keep being sips, guys, because we love it and we need y'all. Just call them sassy. To you sassy princesses. I'm sick of y'all. I can't even deal with y'all. Sick of them. You be like the little kids. Yes. You know what I had behind that hand. I'm sick of the sassy princesses. So never mind them, but to our men, my men, my men, our men, our men, our men, our men. Because we love us strong. We love us some men. I got one, my guy best friend. He cracks me up every time I call him. I'm starting to believe he'll be in meetings when I call him, right? Because every time I call him, he'd be like, what's up, Josh? What's up? And I'm like, what you doing? Oh, I was just in a meeting, but you all right? So he always telling me that. So it'd be making me wonder, was you really in a meeting? Or you just telling me that to make me feel good? Because it makes me feel great that my friend stepped out of his meeting to answer this phone to make sure I was okay. But he might be playing with me so if you are playing with me but no he is that type of person like this this person he won't I have been trying to buy this man lunch for God knows how long he won't do it he won't let me do it It probably feels weird to him because... To let a woman... And he's like, you my dog. Like, you my... Like, I look at you like you one of my sisters. Like, no, we're not doing it. But he gives that... And he's the protector for his wife, his daughter. Strong Black men. Strong Black men. And we also need to adjust our expectations because what the world told us was a strong Black man is isn't necessarily what a strong black man is. And so we need to adjust because we, and the same for strong women though, you know, like Miss Independent, but yeah, y'all gotta, we still want to be soft. You know what I mean? Yeah, for real. Like two alphas in the household, but that woman is going to love it. I'm telling you, if you are both dominant, you are leading your family, your household and that woman, right? That lady is going to go get the earth the sun heaven she gonna go get all of that for you and she gonna leave hell right where it is she gonna go get it all and everything is gonna just flow but that also comes with making sure you are aligned with the person that God has called you to be aligned with yeah it's divine order man follow God woman follow man yeah divine order it's It's important. We want it. We love it. We love it. Because some... And I'm just going to say give women grace one more time because we have to unlearn a lot of stuff. Absolutely. Especially if we was a single mom and we're in survival mode because we couldn't rely on anybody but ourselves. But ourselves. You know what I'm saying? So give us some grace. Yes. Because we want to be... Soft. Yeah. Naked. Yeah. Cocoa butter. Okay. Naked woman era, fellas. If you don't know what that is, go look back on the podcast. Okay? Naked woman era. Because that's where we want to be at. Let me tell you, when my man take me to naked woman era, and I know I'm at... I ain't going to tell y'all, but there will be signs. Y'all going to be like, oh, Johnston reached the NWE because I did. Because I'm there. Y'all trying to come with me? Not with my man. Not with mine. Y'all can go find your own. Y'all can read the pages of my diary to see how I got where I am and how far God brought me. Y'all know it's just loud in here. All right, let's wrap this up. So yes, fellas, we love you guys. And ladies, comment. Comment. Let us know why you think it's important to have a present man in the household. Yeah, what did we miss? Because it's so much. We couldn't cover everything. Exactly. So, you know, let's chat in the comments.

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Bye. So,